There’s a quiet kind of grief in loving a man who doesn’t love Jesus.
You share your home. Your life. Your dreams.
But not your faith.
He doesn’t pray with you.
He doesn’t open the Bible.
He may even scoff at the very God you worship.
And yet, you stay. You love. You hope.
You’ve prayed the same prayer over and over. Some days with tears. Some days with fire. And some days, just with a weary whisper:
“Lord, save him.”
If this is your season, this blog is for you.
“Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;”
– 1 Peter 3:1, KJV
This verse reminds us: God sees you. And He’s not asking you to fix your husband—but to be faithful to Him.
1. Shift Your Eyes from Your Husband to the Lord
It’s easy to get caught up in everything your husband isn’t doing.
“He won’t pray.”
“He never listens.”
“He doesn’t believe.”
But the more you stare at what’s missing, the more discouraged you’ll feel. It’s time to shift your gaze. Look higher.
“I will lift up mine eyes unto the hills, from whence cometh my help.
My help cometh from the Lord, which made heaven and earth.”
– Psalm 121:1–2, KJV
Your help doesn’t come from your husband finally “getting it.”
It comes from God. And He is not late. Not silent. Not distant.
Keep your eyes on Him, and your hope will not run dry.
2. Stop Sermoning—Start Living the Sermon
You don’t need to be your husband’s preacher.
The Bible says if he doesn’t obey the Word, he may be won “without the word.”
That means—without nagging, without lecturing, without guilt-tripping.
Instead, let it be your life that speaks.
“Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.”
– Hebrews 13:5, KJV
Let your kindness preach.
Let your patience teach.
Let your testimony lead.
He may not hear a sermon, but he cannot ignore the Spirit of Christ alive in you.
3. Respect Him—Even If You Think He Doesn’t Deserve It
This part is hard. Because in our human nature, respect feels earned.
But Scripture calls us to something deeper. Not because our husbands are perfect but because God is.
“Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.”
– Ephesians 5:33, KJV
To reverence means to honor, to respect.
Not with gritted teeth, but with a quiet spirit that says:
“I submit to the Lord, and in doing so—I honor you.”
You may not feel like it. But your obedience honors God, and He sees every effort.
4. Submission Is a Surrender to God First
Submission doesn’t mean silencing your convictions or hiding your faith.
It means you choose to follow God’s design, even when your husband isn’t yet following Christ.
“Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.”
– Colossians 3:18, KJV
You’re not submitting because he’s worthy.
You’re submitting because God is worthy.
And your gentle, faithful posture is an act of worship. Every time you choose honor over bitterness, grace over criticism, peace over control—you declare:
“Jesus is Lord here.”
5. Don’t Lose Heart—God Is Working in Ways You Can’t See
You might feel like nothing is happening.
But God is never idle.
“The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.”
– James 5:16b, KJV
Keep praying—not as a duty, but as a declaration of faith.
He is able. He is near. And He is patient.
Your husband’s heart is not too hard for God to soften.
Your marriage is not too far for God to redeem.
Your hope is not foolish—it is anchored in Christ.
6. When You’re Tired of Hoping, Rest in His Faithfulness
You’re not being asked to carry the weight of your husband’s salvation.
You’re being asked to love, respect, and trust—even in the waiting.
“And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not.”
– Galatians 6:9, KJV
God knows every tear, every whispered prayer, every moment of lonely faith.
You are not unseen. And your labor is not in vain.
A Final Word for the Weary Wife
Don’t measure God’s work by what your eyes can see.
He is moving.
He is able.
He is with you.
So keep loving your husband.
Keep honoring him.
Keep hoping—with eyes fixed not on your husband’s progress, but on your Savior’s promises.
And if you ever wonder whether it’s worth it—
Look Above.
And trust the One who saved you, to write your husband’s story too.
“Faithful is he that calleth you, who also will do it.”
– 1 Thessalonians 5:24, KJV
